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The dress has two calendars: the order and the alterations

A made-to-order gown is two projects with two deadlines. Order early with the delivery date on the receipt; then give the fittings their own ten weeks, with the shoes bought first.

A made-to-order gown is two projects with two deadlines. The order has a production lead time that shops quote in months; the alterations have their own fittings in the last ten weeks. Most of what goes wrong with a dress is one of those calendars starting late.

The order calendar

  • When to order: boutiques generally ask for six to twelve months before the wedding (Adorn Bridal). Consumer Reports puts a boutique order at six to nine months, longer for gowns made abroad. Azazie suggests eight to ten months, with six as a minimum for simple styles.
  • Rush fees: they typically begin when the wedding is five months away or closer, and the amount varies by shop (Adorn Bridal). Ask what the fee is and when it starts before you fall for a dress.
  • Size: wedding sizing runs smaller than street sizing, often by one or two sizes, and every designer has its own chart. Order from your measurements today using that chart; between two sizes, choose the larger (Azazie, Consumer Reports). Taking in is routine; letting out is limited by the seam allowance.
  • No returns: special-order gowns are generally not returnable (Consumer Reports). Before paying, ask whether an exchange for a gown of the same price is possible, and get the answer in writing.

The receipt

Ask for the expected delivery date on the receipt, the deposit amount and what it covers, and what happens if the dress is late. In 2020 the New York Attorney General settled with a dress shop that had failed to deliver special-order gowns; the settlement required written receipts with expected delivery dates, and refunds when a dress was more than three weeks late or would not arrive at least a month before the event. Those terms are reasonable to ask any shop for. Consumer Reports recommends paying by credit card, which may help recover your money if the shop closes.

The alterations calendar

  • Fittings: expect two or three, spaced two to three weeks apart, the first about eight to ten weeks before the wedding and the final one to two weeks out (Azazie).
  • Bring the whole outfit: the wedding shoes and the undergarments come to every fitting, because heel height sets the hem and shapewear changes the fit (Azazie). Buy both before the first fitting.
  • Budget: alterations are their own line. Azazie estimates fifteen to twenty percent of the dress price; Consumer Reports’ 2017 reporting found shops charging per appointment or a flat fee for unlimited fittings. Ask how the shop charges before the first fitting.
  • The bustle: added during alterations, it lifts the train after the ceremony. Decide the style at the first or second fitting, practise it at the final one, and have one trusted person learn it; an elaborate bustle can take ten minutes or more, so plan ten to fifteen minutes for it before the reception (True Society).

Pre-loved and off the rack

A pre-loved gown has no production lead time; buying three to four months out is generally comfortable (Stillwhite). You are limited to the size listed, condition matters more than age, and nearly every gown still needs alteration, so the alterations calendar applies in full.

The wedding party

The party’s dresses are made to order too. Standard production is twelve to sixteen weeks for most designers, with two to three weeks for minor alterations; order six to eight months ahead, or three to four at the latest (David’s Bridal). Aim to have every dress in hand three months before the wedding, and allow three to four extra weeks for international shipping (Azazie). Each member of the party typically pays for their own outfit (Adorn Bridal), which is one more reason to send the designer, colour, size chart and deadline early and in writing.

After the wedding

Clean the dress within twenty-four to forty-eight hours for the best chance at every stain. Clear-liquid stains such as champagne are invisible at first and yellow over time; sugar and sweat oxidize into brown or yellow marks. After six months a stain is about ten times harder to remove, and after a year some are permanent (David’s Bridal). Name the person who takes the dress to the cleaner before you leave for the honeymoon.

Ownership

One person owns the dress calendar: the order date, the delivery date on the receipt, the fittings, the shoes before the first one, the person who learns the bustle, and the person who takes the dress to the cleaner. Put every date in the planning timeline the day the dress is ordered.

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Try it as a Bride IQ question

  • Seven months is forever — The date is set, the dress is a tab you keep opening. It’s made to order. How much time is that, really?
  • The number on the chart — You’re between two sizes on the designer’s chart. The order form has one box.
  • The first fitting — The dress arrived. The wedding is a date. The first fitting goes how many weeks before it? Slide.
  • A heel is a heel — The fitting is Thursday. The real shoes are on back-order. You have a pair that’s close.
  • “Oh, that never happens” — A deposit today for a special order. You ask what happens if it’s late. You get a smile.
  • Worn once — Four months out, no dress, and a listing for the exact gown. Worn once. One size up.
  • Who bustles it? — The ceremony is done, the photos are done, and the train is three feet of fabric that wants to dance.
  • The stain you can’t see — Champagne, sugar, a long night. Six months later, how much harder is that stain to get out? Slide.
  • Everyone in the same green — Five months out. You want your people in one colour. Have you told them to order?

Try it as a Groom IQ question